Moving the Blog

I haven't felt the need to post as often as I used to. I'm hoping that's because life goes on, and challenges which once seemed all-consuming no longer feel that way. Things are going well. There may be set backs, although I hope not, but we'll just keep going. It seems like that's all any of us can do, no matter what challenges we might face.

We can always choose to keep going or give up, and giving up doesn't seem like much fun. What do you do after you give up? Sit there doing nothing. Wallowing.

I don't think so.

Anyway, life is good, never easy, but definitely worthwhile.

I've had copies made of all my posts and had them posted at LDSAR or LDS Addiction Recovery. It's a website set up for those who are dealing with pornography addictions and spouses/family members. There are 19 members right now, and it keeps growing. I'm excited to be a part of it. Most of my posting will probably be over there now. You can still see all my posts, just click on my member name (Sophie).

Our church leaders keep warning us about the dangers of pornography, but do we listen? There were times when Te felt he would never be able to overcome his addiction. He felt like it controlled him and he was helpless. We are never helpless unless we choose to be. Life is full of struggles, but we have the ability to do hard things. I am so proud of Te. There have been days when he comes home looking like he has "been through the ringer", and he has. It has not been easy, but he has chosen to let Heavenly Father help him strengthen him so that he has the desire and the ability to live a life that he controls instead of a life that controls him.

Checking in...

Te had an appointment with the Bishop on Sunday. He got his temple recommend back, so we're planning on going saturday. What a nice feeling it is to be able to go with him.

As much as I would like to say that the battle is over, I know that it isn't. We'll just keep doing the things we have been doing. Reading our scriptures together (we just finished the book of mormon for the 2nd time in our marriage and are starting again), praying together and having regular family home evenings.

Te will keep going to the support group meetings. He has a couple of friends there and hopes to be able to help other people get to where he is (plus, he'd like to avoid sliding back into old habits, and the meetings are helpful).